Struggling with Negativity in the Workplace?
Negativity has chased me away from many people, situations, and environments. I have left two jobs in my short working life due to becoming overwhelmed by the negative energy and mistreatment coming from coworkers, managers, and customers. One of the most challenging aspects of a job in the third density is that it is hard to simply walk away. Unless you have wealth or income independent of your job, most people depend on their employment to pay their bills and feed their families. So, most of us sit through these extremely uncomfortable encounters with an artificial half-smile forced onto our faces, while another person complains to us, talks down at us, and behaves in other ways that are inappropriate.
The general scenario stated above is able to be related to most of you reading this. It may also apply to other situations and relationships in your life, but I am writing specifically about the workplace now. As we go about our daily routines and interact with others, we influence and feed off of each other’s energy. Have you ever witnessed or been involved in a workplace situation that made you very upset, or stop and think: “Wow. This is a dumpster-fire”?
I have been working full time as a Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA) for three and a half years now. The first year and a half were the most challenging for me. Imagine that you are a gentle, sensitive, and compassionate person and you enjoy working hard to care for the adorable elderly people at your local nursing home. Now imagine that as you are going back and forth with your patient about the need to use a machine to transfer her off of the toilet after she transferred herself onto the toilet from her wheelchair, your coworker opens the door to complain to you (in an inappropriate manner) that one of your other patients’ family members is pacing back and forth in front of the nursing station, waiting to yell at you after he yelled at the other staff, because you are taking too long to answer his mother’s call light. The nurse is sitting at the nurse’s station and your coworker is obviously available, since he was able to open your current patient’s bathroom door to yell at you to hurry up. There is more to this example, but I think you get the point.
This level of stress and negativity overwhelmed me and is not sustainable for anybody to handle on a daily basis. At first, I coped by sticking close to my more pleasant patients and keeping busy with their care or other nursing tasks. I am not a confrontational person and negativity from other people really bothered me. As time went on and I continued to ask Spirit for help to deal with these impossible situations and behaviors, more and more inspired thought began to come through. Around Thanksgiving time in late 2022, the value of Thankfulness and Gratitude was present on my mind. As I continued to explore thoughts around what Thankfulness was and how it could be practiced, the values of Humility and Grace were also placed onto my mind.
Yeshua was a great living example of what Grace is. Grace is forgiveness on a very high level vibrational frequency. Grace is all about forgiving people not just before receiving an apology, but with the full knowledge that you will never get one. Grace is about accepting the person or situation for what it is, making your peace with it, and letting go of it and of all baggage related to it. When someone says or does something discouraging to you and you send them forgiveness and universal love anyway? That’s Grace. When Yeshua was crucified by his own people (Roman governor Pontious Pilate advocated for Yeshua, but remember that it was a faction of his own Jewish community that demanded his death) and he called out to God to forgive them for they know not what they do, that’s Grace.
Humility was also important for me to be able to heal and mitigate the negativity of others going forward. While my beliefs that I was a better caregiver to my patients than my coworkers were, based off of observations, experiences, and patient statements were valid, they placed quite the burden onto my shoulders as some sort of self-characterized messiah of the nursing home. Only when I realized that I was doing that and admitting that I, indeed, was not a hero or messiah of anything (I was just there to be of service to my community as best as I could), was I able to humble myself enough to release my attachment to controlling the events and emotions taking place around me.
Though the experiences that taught me were a bit painful, I am so thankful for having learned this lesson about Thankfulness, Humility, and Grace. This has granted me so much emotional freedom, because I am no longer so tied up in the emotions, experiences, and choices of others. If you are putting much of your energy into controlling the circumstances around you, whether for your own comfort, or as a way to try and shield others, then you are preventing others from learning their lessons and you are also giving your power away by placing yourself at the whim of the choices of others. This has karmic consequences and is doing a disservice (however well-intentioned) to yourself and to the collective.
If you are finding that the mood of other people or the way that they treat you decides for you how you are feeling or the type of day that you are having, then you, my friend, are empathic. Everyone on Earth is empathic to one extent or another, but some of us are quite sensitive. Empathy is the ability to not only place yourself in the shoes of another, but to feel the emotions that they are feeling. Realizing this and working with your guides to manage this can greatly improve your ability to function at work. Not accepting the emotions of others is not cruel, it is compassionate. Managing your own emotions is burdensome enough without being stuck with everyone else’s too.
Once you learn to have healthy boundaries, then you can better be of service to the collective. Everyone is responsible for their own emotions. This revelation can be bittersweet, but once you accept it and integrate it into your daily life, then you are able to be more at peace when you’re working and others are forced to face themselves instead of relying on you to absorb all of their energy, because they know that you’ll accept the abuse. A helpful tip that I have utilized once I first began to repair and reenforce my aura, is to visualize a field of white light that extends beyond your body. Visualize that it is so brilliant and strong that the energy of others (no matter the color, kind, or intensity of it) can not pass through that field to get to you. You are always protected and loved.
I offer this message to the collective for the highest good of all and I hope that it helps someone somewhere.
Love and Light, my Spirit friends,
Beau
